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When You Can’t Control What’s Happening

When You Can't Control What's Happening

"When you can't control what's happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what's happening. That's where your power is."

Note: This article was written as a reminder to myself. 


You can do the work.

You can put in the effort.

You can hit the send button.

After that it's often outside our realm of control.

The decision isn't always in your hands.

You can't control it.

All you can control is your reaction.

Like the ancient Stoics, you must find power within this fact.

The 2nd Arrow is Optional…

When we experience pain or find ourselves struck by a proverbial storm of adversity we get hit by the 1st arrow (the event itself), that’s a given.
The 2nd arrow is your self-pity and wallowing.

This is where the true damage is done.

Do not allow the 2nd arrow to hit – as soon as you feel the 1st arrow you must get up and get back to it, there’s people that’re far, far worse off than you are.

As Morrie says you must put a limit on your self-pity, you may spend a moment or two a day but you cannot go through life feeling self-pity.

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I hope you found this Stoic advice helpful...

Scott J.
Scott J.
I’m SJ. I’m a fitness enthusiast and published author. I transformed my body from a skinny fat 135lbs with 18% body fat to a solid 192lbs at 8% body fat. I became qualified in a field I was passionate about. I founded several online businesses that allow me to pursue ideas and projects in my life that I am passionate about without having to constantly worry about money. I published several eBooks explaining the training and dieting techniques I used to achieve the body I have today. I learnt a plethora of new information on dieting and fitness by reading and applying what I read, to find out what does work and what doesn’t work, because as I’m sure you’ve noticed the health and fitness industry is full of non-sense claims and BS. I found out what was true and what worked for me and applied that knowledge. And you bet I had fun during the whole process.

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