When You Can’t Control What’s Happening
“When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what’s happening. That’s where your power is.“
Note: This article was written as a reminder to myself.
You can do the work.
You can put in the effort.
You can hit the send button.
After that it’s often outside our realm of control.
The decision isn’t always in your hands.
You can’t control it.
All you can control is your reaction.
Like the ancient Stoics, you must find power within this fact.
The 2nd Arrow is Optional…
The 2nd arrow is your self-pity and wallowing.
This is where the true damage is done.
Do not allow the 2nd arrow to hit – as soon as you feel the 1st arrow you must get up and get back to it, there’s people that’re far, far worse off than you are.
As Morrie says you must put a limit on your self-pity, you may spend a moment or two a day but you cannot go through life feeling self-pity.